In Part 4, the conclusion of our series on grief, we address how to help a friend or loved one deal with grief.
It can be difficult to find the right words to show someone you care when they are grieving. People are often afraid of saying the wrong thing, intruding, making the person you care about feel worse. It is important to know, however, that there are many ways you can help provide comfort and support to a grieving friend or family member. Simply having someone to lean on, listen, and be there can be a great support. You needn’t have all the answers or give advice. The most important thing you can do is to simply be there.
Realize that it is common to feel awkward in knowing what to do or say to someone who is grieving. The following suggestions may help during this difficult time:
- Acknowledge the situation. “I heard that your _______ died.” This shows that you are open to talk about the situation.
- Express concern. “I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you.”
- Be genuine. “I’m not sure what to do or say, but I want you to know I care.”
- Offer support. “Please let me know what I can do for you.”
- Ask how your friend or loved one feels. Do not presume to know how they feel. Be a good listener.
- Find practical ways to help. Deliver a meal or meals that freeze well and can be heated up in the coming days and weeks. Offer to go grocery shopping or errand running, or even do their laundry. If your friend or loved one has children, offer to take them to their activities, lessons, or sporting events, or just offer to take them on a special outing with you.
- Stay connected. Don’t stop calling or visiting. Make note of important dates and acknowledge them in the days, months, and even year to come.
Remember that you cannot make things better, but you can walk beside your friend or loved one as they cope with their loss.
If you need more information on helping your friend or loved one deal with grief, please contact us at Celtic Healthcare and ask to speak to one of our Bereavement Counselors.
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